Obituary for John Church
It is with very heavy hearts that we announce the passing of John Church. John left us quietly on September 13, 2017 surrounded by his parents Bill and Bev, sisters Tina (Ron), and Mary (Curtis), his aunts, (he was known to write Ants because John towered over each, he was a big guy) Ruth, Jo (Gary), Dale (Ed), Janet (John) Sylvia (Dennis, Rick) Jerry (Sonia) Best Friend Doug (Sandra), (always calling my parents) Mr. and Mrs. Broekhof.
John lived his life on his terms that was laugh lots, be outdoors respect nature, work hard, take action, and most importantly watch out for the other guy. John just expected those he met through out his 50 years to live on the same terms. John loved his work and worked hard, he instilled this same work ethic in his three children William, Katie, and Sarah. When William, Katie or Sarah frustrated him with their lack of enthusiasm for work there were few words said, John was known to place an ad in the paper to sell their car, then sat back smiled and laughed at their reaction when the phone calls started. John always held a tool in one hand and a bunch of keys in his pocket he was forever losing a key or two a bunch he said was easier to locate. When out exploring the great outdoors which he loved and instilled this love in each of his children, he was known to hold his personal floatation device in one hand and a tool in the back pocket just in case!
It seemed only fitting that the last week of his life was spent at what has become a national holiday in the many Church households, Cousins Week. John was able to laugh and tell stories with each of those precious cousins he loved so much, and spend minutes full of laughter, jokes and story telling with those who loved him back in a place with no troubles just trees, water and fresh air.
In the mornings for 20 minutes we would have coffee, sit and chat, I will forever miss those precious minutes of laughter, the many debates about the “Brats”, cars, furniture, people and solving world peace. John often referred to the original Star Trek series for all the history and technology that he witnessed during his life time, he’d say we are living it now to which I’d roll my eyes again and again. John would then make a gourmet breakfast for his dog, Jack say “Goodbye”. Then it would be off to work as one would rarely see John standing around chatting he needed to work there was always someone to help even if all it took was duct tape or a band aid.
John believed in fixing the mistakes of the past, he said some wasted too much time talking about blaming when all that was required was one to be honest and fix it. John believed in quietly mentoring the future and took time to do so. John was grateful and wondered if he made his mentor Gene Huck proud. All continually assured him many times he did as he made all proud!
Just over two years ago when John became ill, with the assistance of his work family. They would gather on their break (as they ate together on the shift) call him on the phone and bring him up to date, and there was always laughter. Each knew it was about taking care of the other guy. This help John healed and got back to doing what he loved, and people needed help he’d say and there was always a bus or a car to be fixed. This was borrowed time.
John found a great spot to quietly help and mentor the future, that was at Citykids Hamilton. It seemed like a normal morning when John left to look at a bus at Citykids, for their Wednesday night programme and then went to his favorite place…work, at Metrolinx.
For one week, we waited for John to wake up at the Hamilton General Hospital where, he received the best care and so did we. All came from great distances and we were all able to share laughter, tears, and stories. To those quietly observing each must have wondered where did all the tools come from, as they witness many wrenches and large bolts in hands of those guests. Just know those tools were an extension of his helping hands. John often compared his body to a well tuned car, for which I would roll my eyes spare parts are needed, in keeping with John’s wishes to all who read this sign your donor card for your spare parts it’s about taking care of the other guy. A simple cremation has taken place and John’s final resting place will be with nature. A Celebration of John's life will be held on Thursday September 28, 2017, from 1-5pm at the Royal Canadian Legion Branch 163, 435 Limeridge Rd. East, Hamilton 905-385-3733. In lieu of flowers, and helping to take care of those buses please make donations to https://citykidz.ca/branches/hamilton/donate.
John as a new day begins without our coffee it is now very quiet around here. I thank you for the privileges and all the adventures we shared and there were many, mostly filled with laughter. No worries I’ll take care of Jack too! I got this go and rest for we all know you are already fixing something up there, with a beer or two in those hands. There is a note that sits on our fridge door I remember the day you wrote it, it pretty much summed up every lecture and you know there were many that I gave to the kids through the years. It is your final words:
"My promise to my Brats!! as long as I live I am your parent 1st your friend 2nd I will stalk you flip out on you lecture you drive you insane be your worst nightmare and hunt you down like a bloodhound when needed because I Love You! When you understand that I will know you are a responsible adult you will never find someone who loves,prays, cares and worries about you more than I do! if you don't hate me once in your life-I am not doing my Job properly."
Mr. & Mrs. Church
Until we have coffee again your wife.
Love you, Bye
One to Beam Up!